I tried to write this as a comment, but it was getting too long:
So, the predominant idea is that being single and doing a celebrity, even a married one, is more acceptable? What if it was just someone you really wanted bad and you knew you would only get one chance?
Lars is dedicated to his wife only. Ian is an old fashioned guy and would skip the opportunity. (Assuming he was in a relationship.)
Mel has a good point in that the chance missed is a future regret.
CL & Yankeebob would have a threesome? Oops, excuse me. I got sidetracked there.
OK, I'm back, CL & YB feel definitely it's not something to be missed. (I think Mel said that too?)
This is pretty interesting. Several different reactions and none ashamed. I freely admit that when I was single my 'girlfriends' included several married women. I didn't really think about it too much back then. But my feelings changed when I was in a relationship in this way; If I had made a promise to only be with my girlfriend/wife, I wouldn't even consider shopping around. No qualms when I was single. No chance when I'm attached.
I feel lkie the temptation would be too much for me in an extraordinary circumstance, like the Sandra thing. It would take something like that to cause me to compromise myself, but I still think it's entirely likely that it would happen.
I don't feel like I'm an immoral person even fessing up to that. I do know that I've learned to take opportunities when they are available. As Mel pointed out, someday I could regret missed chances. I don't like that idea much.
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uhm... i think i seriously missed something... clue me in!
for the record, even though it's a missed opportunity, i think i'd just live with the regret, if i would regret it at all... i can't imagine being with anyone else in the world ever again. which is VERY weird for me to say... i used to be so different. damn that man.
hey, and btw, morality's overrated :P
oh, hey. i missed that post. there it is. how weird. i didn't see it earlier today...
Great, now I'm going to be known as the threesome chick. (strangely unoffended)
cl, i wouldn't be offended, either :P
btw, i'm going to need your # for when i run into jude. i'm SO stalking him now :P
Well I guess my values really are out of date!
I wouldn't see this as a missed opportunity at all, because - as I said before - the only girl I'd want, would be the one I was in the relationship with. It wouldn't matter to me if they were a celebrity or not, I still don't believe I would do it.
And I think if I was in a relationship with someone who slept with a celebrity while we were together, just because it was an opportunity not to be missed, I'd take it like any other betrayal, irrespective of whether they were a celebrity or not. It would be the end of our relationship as far as I was concerned.
Unless, of course, our relationship was over anyway and we were still together even though we shouldn't be. That's a different matter altogether. In that situation both of us would be single in everything but words anyway, so anything's fair go.
But in a healthy loving relationship, I wouldn't, and couldn't handle it if my girl did either.
But I seem to very definately be in the minority here.
First off, Grace, you have nothing to want because you have Steve. He rocks. If I were married to Steve, I wouldn't want anyone else either.
That being said, I am running off to Melbourne to marry Ian. Guys like you are few and far between.
And I have no problems with commitment, I swear. When I am committed, I am committed. And when I fall for someone, I fall hard and put everything I have into it. So I wouldn't just run off and boink the first cute guy (celebrity or not) that came along.
However, if that commitment is breached and tarnished, it's fair game, right? Nothing like a good revenge f**k, eh?
I swear, I am not some immoral heathen. I might be a little bit bitter, but I do live by some version of a moral code, however warped it may be.
awww, that means a lot to me.... i want everyone to see steve in the same light that i see him... i think he's so fabulous... (and although, i prefer him in candlelight perfectly nude, i am not certain he wants everyone to see him THAT light... hehe)
i'm with mel, i've never had a revenge effin' that i didn't like :P maybe i'm warped, too...
and can we come to the wedding? it's not in melbourne, is it? damn, i hate those flies. if it is, can it be during non-fly season? oh, and can you have it at the prince hotel? i loved that place.
oh, sorry. i think i'm getting ahead of myself.
I can see J's point. Private memories are the best.
Nah Ian, your values aren't out of date. That thing you said about "our relationship was over anyway and we were still together even though we shouldn't be" is probably what a large majority of people find happens to them. It's easy to find a passionate connection. It's really hard to keep it going. That's probably why most 'flings' happen. I admire your ideals.
I think Mel said the same thing, pretty much. She's committed as long as her partner is too. That's a very fair expectation, I think.
Now Grace & Steve, everyone should hope to find a partner like they have. I'm envious. (Yes, I am married.)
I'm of the mindset, as I said before, that once I've made the commitment, I won't break my word. I just have to wonder where sexual activity became such a taboo. Isn't it like just another adult pastime? Why is there such a stigma attached to boinking? (Other than breaking vows of course.) For uncommitted people, isn't it a lot like getting together and playing cards or something? A bit more physical, but adult fun nontheless.
when i think of adult fun, i think of alcohol and naked twister.
Grace, I like the way you think!!
After reading the comments of the previous "Celebrity" post, it sounds like the object of many peoples affections is CL. I'm all about the work place crush though, and maybe Jennifer Aniston, or possibly Anna Paquin, or maybe any Playboy model, but then again there is Pam Anderson. What ever, I'll take 'em all.
After seeing Closer, I not only have a ginormous crush on a pervy Clive Owen, but a semi-pervy Natalie Portman, too...
I really want to party with J, CL, Mel and Grace. Naked Twister sounds fun.
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